It’s 1:23 am
It’s very warm here this morning. I hear a light drizzle outside my window in the den.
Paladin is curled up in his spot on the bed. He has slept quite a bit today,he came down for treats but went right back up afterwards. He is in good spirits but I think the heat wears on him a bit.
I am making my way through this week one moment at a time. Trying to stay busy and keep my brain occupied. It’s not easy,my insomnia is so bad this week and I’m restless.
Ever walk and still feel like your’re going nowhere? Its a weird feeling…I know that tomorrow will mark Lori’s last day and that Saturday morning will mark the 4th year since she has left.
I thought I would express some deep message or meaning about how I feel but the fact is I feel just as empty and hollow now as I did then. Cancer does this to you. Cancer robs you of so much. Despite brave words and actions,at the end of the day,you’re sleeping alone,your waking up alone and the life you had is gone.
Below are the last two entries I posted before my wife died of uterine cancer.
17 May 13
Yesterday saw us battle the fistula,today she developed diarrhea out of nowhere,totally perplexed because she hasn’t eaten anything for a while now.
I have been on my feet for about 40 of the past 48 hours cleaning her and changing the bed sheets with some assistance from hospice and Marlene (Crash’s mom) who I had to call to help me set up the gravity drip I.V.
I’m heading to bed now….
selfless love ❤
Hugs to u my friend
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Love you,Cezanne…..
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I am sure what you guys have gone through is beyond my imagination. I will be thinking of you on Saturday! Don´t forget self-care!
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I’m trying to do that….I need to try much harder. But at least I know why I am where I am. Thank you for your kind comment.
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after giving so much of yourself in such an intense way for so long, it probably takes baby steps to learn self-care again. Give Paladin some scritches behind the ears from me and tell him to look after you on Saturday! ❤
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Cancer does take a toll of the entire family. I have seen this firsthand when I once worked at a cancer centre. It is a long battle, one that you will never forget.
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You are so right…..its a long struggle indeed!
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Tears. You are so brave for sharing everything so candidly. The reality is difficult, but for those who have been caregivers it’s so helpful to read someone else who has been there to. Someone who has missed a moment they might regret, or someone who feels guilt for a aspect of care where they feel they could have done more. We are only as human and mortal as our loved ones whose lights are fading just a tad bit quicker than our owns. ❤
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I can’t imagine documenting all these events and all these feelings because to go through them again over and over and over again would just tear me apart. I admire you so much for putting things into words because you are probably helping someone get through a very similar experience. Thanks for always being so transparent and vulnerable and open about what you went through. I’m sure it’s not easy to put this out there. Sending you so much love ❤
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This is both sad and so sweet. The fact that she was mentioned put tears in my eyes.
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I’m not really sure what to say but I do know she’s very lucky to have you 😊
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It’s an mix feeling sweet and sad .cancer is really bad 😥
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My heart goes out to you and your family. Take care of yourself.
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